The Inner Critic

All morning I've been defending myself getting armed with responses for all of the judgement, feedback and thoughts that others will have on what I put out into the world. I've got a case to argue for each of the things I say or do. I'm ready with apologies, such as "I'm only human, we all make mistakes, I'm doing my best." Then come the zingers, "I'm working to be a better person each day, what are you doing, sitting here criticizing me?". "How are you making the world a better place finding faults in me, worry about yourself?"

My heart is actually pounding, I feel a little nervous, stressed and on the defense. How could people say these things to me, why can't people be more forgiving and understanding? I've been thinking of all of my replies for the last hour or so and now I am mentally tired. I set out to start my day with going over all of my accomplishments, what I have done right or well to pump me up but instead I am caught in the swirling drainage of negativity and defensiveness. 

The funny thing is, I have not posted anything yet. After spending all of my morning concerned with what others would think, fearful of what they will say (even over the smallest thing) or think to themselves, I've been preparing to defend myself from a mythical situation because it has not happened yet.

It dawned on me that I'm actually passing judgement on myself in the guise of other's judgements, then mentally defending myself to all of the the critical and judgmental parts of me. It's very emotionally exhausting and it's not something I would recommend but honestly it's not something I even noticed at first. I mean I know I'm doing it, sort of, but not how often and for how long. So much time wasted in fear and defensiveness. It's hard and paralyzing to do just about anything because of all the self judgement I pass. Just imagine what it will be like when I unleash what I really think to the world and those judgements are amplified by each individual who reads what I say? It's frightening to me.

But despite that a little voice inside reminds me that I cannot let that stop me from being me. From saying the things that want to be said. I don't know why, it just is. What I do know is that I currently have an opportunity to experience what it is to be human in all of it's different stages. One of those is feeling fear and expressing yourself. I need to do it because that's what living is. Living is to feel emotions (good and bad) and to keep going anyway. There are so many people who no longer have the opportunity to do this, their time has passed, so I need to remind myself of that every day and keep putting one foot in front of the other. Experiencing life is a gift, it's an opportunity and I am going to do my best to not waste any more gifts or opportunities in my life out of fear or judgement from myself or anyone else. 

Here are a few of books I recommend reading to get a better understanding of the inner critic and voice in your head:
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
A New Earth, Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose by Eckhart Tolle
The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer

Adapted from a post orginally written in June 21 2017.

Need a Little Writing Inspiration?

If you are feeling stuck, chek out I Wrote It Anyway, an anthology of essays edited by Caroline Donahue and Dal Kular. The book features 30 inspiring essays from a variety of indivduals. I am super honored and proud to be a contributor to the book and among so many talented and inspring individuals! The book is availalbe on Amazon now!


I Wrote It Anyway

An Anthology of Essays Edited by Dal Kular & Caroline Donahue

I Wrote It Anyway Book Description:
“Have you ever dreamed of writing, but let something stand in your way? In this collection of 30 essays, new voices and experienced authors share inspiring stories about overcoming the obstacles to writing that stopped them in their tracks. From mental and physical health, perfectionism, isolation, lack of time in a busy world to stories from the front lines of the #metoo era, you'll find a story that speaks to your personal block. In this day and age, writing has the potential to bring people together like never before. If you believe you have a book in you, or have always dreamed of writing, let this collection motivate you to follow through on that dream. Every single one of the contributors felt tremendous fear when beginning to write, but in the end they wrote it anyway. All proceeds of this collection benefit 826 LA in the US and Arts Emergency in the UK.” - I Wrote It Anyway Back Cover, Edited by Caroline Donahue & Dal Kular, Secret Library Press, 2018.

Undefined - Episode 1 - Stuck

Okay, so this recording is raw. No intro, no outro, no logo...yet. Like each of us it's Undefined. But it will evolve over time. On this episode I mumble my way through an intro and discuss some ways I have been stuck trying to figure out exactly what to do lately. I also discuss a quick technique to use when you feel stuck, un-inspired or you can't find your way. Enjoy!

Acting in a Book Trailer - The Misadventures of Sulliver Pong

Something I don't talk much about is acting. It's something I've done for a long time but it's one of those things that can be hard to show. I don't always get shareable results from projects but I'm always working on it in variety of aspects. I love having fun and creating from video blogs, comedy/dramatic acting, hosting, podcasts...any chance I get to be creative I do my best to push my self, jump on it and participate.

I've started to wonder what's the point if I never share anything? Of course it brings me joy but I would also like to start to use it for something beyond that. My new intention is to start to share my work more often as well as the work of so many other talented people I come across. Don't be surprised if you see more from me, from home made iPhone travel videos/blogs (yep, I've got a bunch of these stored away) to other cool projects. I'd like to have a place where I can post everything and for now, this is it. 

So here is my latest work, a book trailer created by the fabulous filmmaker Larry Cheuk from LCDigital Production for his brother, Leland Cheuk's novel The Misadventures of Sulliver Pong. Enjoy!


A New Perspective

Today I would love to share more but I'm getting ready for a film shoot. As much as I understand and agree with the quote below I can't say that I always follow the advice . Sometimes I am so set in my ways that I can not even see that there is another way of doing something until long after I've already completed it. May this quote inspire you to push through your perceived limitations and apply creativity to all that you do today. Cheers!

Color Inside the Lines Quote